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Joined: Sat Oct 04, 2008 12:12 am
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PostPosted: Sat Oct 04, 2008 12:21 am 
 Post subject: My Boyfriend Cums Too Fast.

well i have a big problem...
whenever me and my boyfriend have sex he cums in less than 5 minutes.
there's been times when we don't even do it, when im on top of him making out he cums.
we just started having sex not too long ago and i thought it was only going to be like this at the beginning because i hadnt had sex in a while and i was pretty "tight".
well it wasnt how i thought it was gonna be. we've had sex a lot now and it keeps happening... why??
i dont know how to talk to him about this cuz im afraid he'll feel embarrased.
please help me!

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PostPosted: Sun Oct 26, 2008 6:08 pm 
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Maybe you can pick out the condom -- the ones that has "numbing agents", that should reduce the sensitivity.

Or -- i don't particularly recommend this -- Smack him... like, 2 minutes into it. That should "reset" his arousal scale. And then, when he gets aroused again, SMACK.

Please exercise caution.


Joined: Tue Sep 08, 2009 9:24 am
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PostPosted: Tue Sep 08, 2009 10:05 am 
 Post subject: Re: My Boyfriend Cums Too Fast.

me and my bf have some of the same problems. when he feels like he's going to cum (you can probably tell) grasp the base of his penis and hold it (like a ring) and squeeze gently. this should stave off his orgasm for a bit longer. try alot of foreplay before just for you. its not mean to him, it'll just help you be at the same level of arousal he's already at.

He could also pull out for a minute or so and stimulate you and then go back to regular screwing.

happy sexing!


Joined: Mon Oct 12, 2009 4:28 pm
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 12, 2009 4:54 pm 
 Post subject: Re: My Boyfriend Cums Too Fast.

Sounds like very normal, It may take sometime for him. He may be overly excited when he is with you. Just give him sometime.


Joined: Wed Oct 07, 2009 2:38 pm
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PostPosted: Tue Oct 20, 2009 3:07 pm 
 Post subject: Re: My Boyfriend Cums Too Fast.

Well communication is key in everything about relationships so you NEED to say something to him. You don't have to be "mean" and frankly, if he is so insecure that it hurts his little feelings hearing his woman suggest that she wants to work on something that is causing her to not be satisfied in bed. He should take it as a mission to resolve and fix.

As far as what will help, he needs to practice, go watch some porn and jerk off but stop right before he goes too far, he should learn at what point there is "no turning back" and be able to STOP there for a min. Mentally he can shift gears at that point too, start thinking about what he has to do at work tomorrow, about taking his dog to the vet, anything radically UNsexy works. The bottom line is it is his responsibility to learn his body and make sure he is providing the pleasure YOU need. Even if he pops early, well he better limber up his tongue and stretch out his fingers and get to work.

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